------------------Relaxation, Lubrication & Communication
Normally with sex, there are no rules as long as there is consent. With backdoor exploration, there are some safety precautions you’ll want to take. While you can’t lose a toy in a vagina because it has the cervix as a barrier, the other end of your anus is actually your mouth. So if using a toy, the toy must have a base otherwise risk losing the toy up the butt and having to go to the hospital. And also need a lubricant because the rectum does not self-lubricate. Thicker formulas tend to be best for backdoor exploration because they last longer and put a nice cushion.
Going right from no penetration to having a penis or toy larger than a finger inside it can be uncomfortable, or even painful. It’s a good idea to start with a finger (yours or your partner’s) or a small plug or dildo and work your way up. Renegade Spade Plug Kit has four choices, choose different sizes according to your preference. Going slow, and listening to your body is vital. Start by turning yourself on.
The most common misconception about anal exploration is that anal sex will hurt. Which is just not true! If anal exploration hurts at all, it means you need to adjust something. It might mean you need more lube or a smaller toy, or even a different position.
Either way, if you’re feeling uncomfortable, or any sort of pain, try adjusting something or adding stimulation to other erogenous areas. And if you just don’t like it, you don’t have to try again!
Your body, your pleasure! The goal of exploring should be a pleasure, and if it’s just not feeling good for you remember that you can also stop exploring as well. Give it a shot, and see if you open up more pleasure options.